SEPARATION AND DIVORCE ... breaking up, letting go and moving on.

The irreconcilable breakdown of a relationship is always sad but it happens and when it does, it is another milestone of life.

Very often, those involved will jump into another relationship very quickly so as to avoid dealing with the pain of endings.   However, the acknowledgement of those endings are so important - they are like closing one circle before starting another.   Otherwise what is left, or often carried over into the next relationship, is unfinished business.  

A period of grieving can be very beneficial and a separation ceremony can mark the start of that process or can be a celebration at the end.  

Either way, a ceremony clearly says "I acknowledge that this relationship is ended and that I now need to let go and move on". Of coursde if there are children involved, the "end" will never be final, but it is a psychological end and denotes the start of a new chapter in life.

Obviously, the divorce procedure for married couples is part of this process but it is frequently a time when anger and bitterness emerge and a Decree Absolute does not determine an emotional ending to your relationship - just a legal one.   Also, many couples are not married and therefore don't even have the legal procedure to benchmark their separation.

So an Interfaith ceremony can be a powerful way to ensure that the grieving and healing process is supported and that the rest of life is embraced from a place of closure.  If the grieving and healing has already happened, a ceremony can be a time of joyous celebration with friends and family - a way of saying "look out world, here I come!" 

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